We often worry about our acceptance by others. We worry if others will like me the way I am or not!
But do we ever think to check on ourselves?! Do we accept others the way they are?! Most of us don’t. But why do we need to accept others? What’s the benefit it has for us? Well, just peace of mind and a better version of us. Isn’t that reason good enough to understand why accepting others can make big difference in our life!
Till the time we do not accept that person and forgive him or her, we won’t be able to remove that person from our thoughts. Just like when we are in love, and we can’t stop thinking about that person. Now, Don’t smile like that! 😉
But Have I said, Love?! Yes! Love. Love and Hate both are different sides of the same coin. Since both are very intense emotions they impact our being with the same intensity. The only difference between both is that one is positive, and the other is a negative emotion.
Think about your boss, your in-laws, or any person you can’t stand. When you talk to any of your friends, just observe how many times you talk about that person in your conversation. Oops! That’s most of the time! Here you got it! We waste so much of our energy thinking and talking about the person we don’t like. And by talking about that person we further involve that person in our thoughts and ultimately in our life! Isn’t that crazy! Uff!
“Best Thing one can do when it Rains…. Let it Rain!!”
But if you want to stop thoughts of that person to stop bothering you what do you have to do? Just accept and move on. Thoughts of that person will stop bothering you. First in your mind and then in reality. Ok! but what will acceptance do?
Accepting that person the way he or she is, will give a command to your mind, ” This person is like that only and I can’t change him or her”. This will enable your mind to stop expecting other fancy things from that person except the ones’ mind has experienced from him or her in the past. Yeh! Half the job is done!
Once, your mind will receive the command of acceptance it will be at ease and will now search for the answer to the next question – “What to do now?” Instead of the previous scenario where the mind is stuck in blaming him or her for everything wrong in your life! Now your mind will provide you with solutions and techniques about how to deal with this person and find the middle path. Of course, the Mind is interested in your survival.
Easy said than done. Yes, it will require your efforts, persistence, focus, and coming over your Ego. But not necessarily you have to say anything. I understand that’s so damn difficult! But there is a way, you can give signals of your changed thoughts by your changed behavior. That’s relatively easy. But once you cross the barrier and reach the other side, it’s worth the effort. Trust me on that, it has given me so much peace.
And what’s your benefit? Well, these people in your life are for a reason. Simply, to provide you with the opportunities to grow as a person, as a human being. You can’t escape these people until you improve yourself and grow. Doesn’t matter how much you try to run away, they will come back! If you leave your in-laws, these people will come in the form of your boss, if you leave your boss they will come in the form of neighbors, and cycles will continue until it is stopped. And the only person who can stop this vicious cycle is You!!
Escaping away won’t help, just face them and win over. Looking for their fault isn’t good, they are here to help you. Just playing their role in the drama of your life!
Accept them, Look for your own faults and improve yourself, these people will change automatically!! They will respect you for having the guts to change and accept them the way they are. Similar to what we expect from them, Just to accept us as we are!
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