A Child and mother relationship — Does it require any kind of nurturing or extra efforts than natural feelings to flourish? Of course, No! That means relationships can progress to the next level without nurturing! But when it comes to other relationships why it requires extra care and efforts to make a great relationship?
Almost everyone will echo together to say, “Mother-child relation is natural and most pious relation on earth!” Yes, I agree, but what makes it natural, that it never bothers a mother to wake up all night to take care of her child?! If you say everyone loves children as they are God’s gift, Sorry I am not buying that, as crying of a child is always a nuisance until it’s one’s own child. Let’s explore what we can learn from the beautiful connection of mother-child.
For a mother, the child is someone who is part of her own body that means the child is an extension of her own body! In other words, the child is ‘She’ herself in another physical body. Isn’t that interesting!
Since we all are very much possessive about our own body, naturally, everyone will put every effort to take care of their own self in the best way possible. And that makes sense why a mother feels the pain of her child, or why she can predict when a child is hungry and further on.
But the big question is when we humans are capable enough to include other life as part of our own self, why don’t we extend this inclusiveness towards others?!! Well! There are lots of reasons to it ranging from insecurity, selfishness, fear to our own expectations form others. But point is that humans are capable of doing this.
Now, imagine if we include our husband, wife, brother, sister or whomsoever as part of your own self, as part of our own being, an extension to our own body, won’t we understand them better?! Will a wife or husband still shout on spouse for coming late from office or they will understand their spouse’s situation? Given a choice no one will like to come home late, Right? Instead of shouting on a younger sibling for going out and partying they will ensure that they are safe wherever they are!
This inclusion and change in direction of thoughts will immediately change our actions toward that person. Our actions will be more responsible and more affectionate. Don’t we expect such Beingship instead of relationships, which burdens us to meet the expectations from others, carry relation just for own selfish interests?
Trees grow only when soil includes the raindrops as a part of soil itself.
When in Beingship you include another person not only into your life but include them into your being, into yourself. After that, you don’t have to apply mind to fulfil other expectations. Because there is no other person. It’s just ‘you’, and ‘you’ know what makes you feel good. Then you will automatically do what’s necessary and you will come to know what other person’s need are. Similar to how a mother knows what her child needs.
This shift in attitude will change the dynamics of all your relationships to Beingships. Now there is no anger because another person is late because when you are late you don’t shout on yourself, you just understand and say to yourself, “It’s OK, I got late because of ……”.
Now you will ask what if ‘other person’ does not behave as in Beingship. Don’t worry! Now, another being is ‘you’ only, and we all have good and bad habits. Don’t we? Since now ‘other person’ is part of you, that bad habit now belongs to you. Scary na!
But there is a solution. Just ignore for time being, as you ignore lots of your own bad habits which you are unable to change. And Good news is that when you create Beingship other people will see the change in you and will respond accordingly. Anyways no one can change anyone except our own self, so no point even thinking in that direction. By creating Beingship, one will anyways reduce reasons given to others to behave inappropriately. Because everyone behaves, just how we allow them to behave!
Be Inclusive and move one step closure to explore Life.
Happy Beingshipsto you!!
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