When we think of our life, obviously we picture a perfect life partner in it and we start our search for that person.
But I suggest don’t search!
Yes, don’t search because a perfect life partner cannot be found by assessing anyone with a pros and cons matrix. Though there is no perfect human being when it comes to relationships, however, what makes you feel perfect is perfect for you.
The trick lies in your imagination of the perfect life partner. The picture you made in your mind is of the person who exists in reality but not for you…wait a minute…don’t lose your heart…That person exists for a future version of yourself. And you can become that future version only by focussing on improving yourself instead of searching for that perfect person!
So here is the key, Search for yourself and when you will find yourself, you will meet that person of your imagination. But that is the toughest part, changing yourself! Very few people take efforts to work on self-improvement till all other doors are not closed.
But if you are adamant to meet that person of your dreams, start working on yourself. Because the best relationship is not when you need someone to fulfill your needs, but it is when you don’t need a partner to fulfill any need but you still want to be with that person, simply because it feels good in their presence. Most importantly, the perfect person will help you to grow emotionally, spiritually, economically, and in whatever way is good for you.
Best relationship is when you don’t need a partner to fulfill any need but still you want to be with that person.
Anu Kushwaha
So here are a few ways to manifest your partner in your life:
- Stop focusing on the search: If you are focusing on searching for that perfect person, you will end up missing your lessons. Do not go out and meet new people when in the back of your mind question is running, “Is this the person I am looking for?” That’s the trap of the mind. Don’t fall in it. Instead, experience life to its fullest as it will give you the freedom to choose. It will give you the power to say ‘No’ to everyone but one, instead of adjusting with whatsoever is easily available.
- Explore yourself: Go out and explore yourself. Attend workshops, learn new things, follow your hobby and improve your skills. This will help you to know what you really want to do in your life, which is where all the magic of life resides.
- Pursue your Dreams: If you want to meet your dream partner, make yourself self-sufficient and be committed to your dreams. When you are committed to your dreams and achieve them, people respect you for what you are.
- Respect yourself: ‘Respect’ is the key ingredient in any relationship, even before love. Respect is earned and not asked from others. Before you expect others to respect you, learn to respect yourself and don’t settle for anything less than what you deserve.
- Have patience: Sometimes, it may look like an endless wait for your perfect person. But it is worth waiting, than being with the wrong person you may regret later.
These methods will help you to guide you in the right direction. But listen to your inner voice, which is the best guide available to everyone. The time you take to improve yourself to become eligible to be with that perfect person is the only time you have to wait. So keep moving.
If you wish to improve yourself faster you can choose to enroll in ‘Life Clarity Hub‘. Alternatively, you can also read my book ‘Push Start to Auto Start – Drive your life with ease‘ and bring ease to your life.
